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Month: April 2015

Two Kinds of Leaders

two kinds of leaders

 

Recently I went through a period of time where I had the opportunity to meet with several community and church leaders in a very short window of time. I noticed something about the meetings. Something that really has caused me some discomfort. I observed there are at least two different kinds of leaders.

The first kind of leaders are draining leaders. Whether I spent five minutes with them or an hour I came away feeling the same. I came away feeling sucked dry emotionally, professionally, and creatively. At best I left our meetings feeling like I needed to take a shower. At worst I felt like a complete failure of a person.

The second kind of leader was a filler. These people had the ability to leave me feeling empowered and charged. I came away from my meetings, however brief, feeling like a better person.

Identifying the two types does not explain my discomfort. My discomfort comes because I am not sure why the difference exists. In both styles of leader are highly successful people. Individuals who are building large teams, amassing great profits, and coordinating significant impactful initiatives.

As I try to figure this out, I am turning to you for help. First, have you observed these differences? Second, if you have, why do you think fill people up and others drain?

Pastor Stephen

 

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Defining the Church

Loaded Menu Board

 

In my last post, I asked the question, “What if we are not meant to be known by the roles we play and the things we do but rather by whose we are?”

I continue to process this very challenging question and its implications. My struggling has brought to wonder about the church itself. What if the importance of finding our value is whose we are rather than who we are is not only true for persons but also true for churches? Admit it. We define our churches by the things we do. The more programs we run the better. Our success as a church is defined by having more programs than anyone else in town. If we offer an ever increasing diversity of choices of things for people to do we are a success. But if our menu board of programs is not glamorous and loaded we must be a failure.

What do you think? Does the church place more emphasis on what we do rather than whose we are? What difference does it make?

 

Pastor Stephen

 

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How do we define ourselves?

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We are defined by the things we do and the roles we play. Husband, father, son, daughter, mother, and wife. CEO, General Manager, Assistant, Leader, Pastor, Chef, Salesman, Guide, and Janitor. This is what makes a period of unemployment so debilitating. When we lose our roles and titles we feel as though we have no identity and are stuck in an impossibly dark cloud trying to find a way out. We sift through job postings wondering if we want to be identified by the title while fearing being defined by nothing. Each time we hear a potential employer say “no” it chips away at what little sense of self-worth we have because we are defined by what we do and the roles we play.

But what if this is not how it should be?

What if our identity and worth are not to be found in who we are but in whose we are?

We are children of God. We to the one, who knowing everything about us, gave up everything for us.

What difference does that make?

Thoughts for today’s Milk Can come from a recent sermon preached by Katie Withrow at Hope. I highly recommend listening to the words she shared and pondering their implications. Listen Here.

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Impossibilities

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What impossible situation do you face?

Is there anything in your life that is more impossible, more unavoidable, more hopeless than death itself?

When Jesus was raised to life, death itself was defeated. For those who are children of God, the very same Spirit, the very same power, which raised Jesus from the dead is at work in your life, even today.

So face this day with courage and strength.

 

Pastor Stephen

Sacred Meals

Meal

 

Final meals together are special, they are sacred times. But despite their sacredness, for most of our final meals we never know it will be the last one we will share together so they also tend to be ordinary, uneventful, and routine.

As Jesus and his disciples gathered together on this night to celebrate the Passover meal in Jerusalem it was like many others they had shared together and with friends and family through the years of their life, ordinary and routine. Still there was a charge of anticipation in the room. The disciples knew there was significance to this night, but not in a way they could ever imagine. For them, they gathered in Jerusalem. The heart of their nation. The city of kings. The soul of their faith. And as Jesus says to them, “I have eagerly desired to share this meal with you . . .” They could not have begun to understand what lay ahead in the hours to come.

So it was that they would spend the evening arguing over a topic of discussion and disagreement they had many times before. They were like so many of our families, weren’t they? We can get together and it seems like the same old topics of discussion, arguments and disagreement reappear, no matter how many times we vow to not talk about it. For the disciples, the topic they could never get away from was, “Which of them was the greatest?” It seemed to be a continuous burr in their side. And tonight the conversation was especially charged. After all, they were in Jerusalem. Surely this would be the moment when Jesus would declare his reign as king and bring his kingdom to earth.

The intensity of their argument grew white hot and they became so engrossed that no one noticed Jesus getting up from the table and moving to the side of the room to a small spot right next to the door. They paid no attention to the sound of water being poured into a basin. It was only as Jesus began to remove his outer garments did the disciples shouts begin to trail off as they sat in confusion trying to figure out what Jesus was up to.

One by one Jesus would call each of his disciples over. One by one, he would kneel before them and wash their feet. Becoming the lowest, the most despised of servants.

For the disciples, this night was really like any other night. For Jesus, this night was a final meal together and there was one more lesson these men needed to learn before darkness would surround them and they would find themselves tested beyond the breaking point. The lesson of service. It wasn’t that Jesus had not tried to teach this lesson to his disciples before. A few days earlier Jesus had cautioned them not follow the example of those who grabbed for power and position. Instead telling them:

“The greatest among you will be your servant. For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” Matthew 23:12

And how could they have so quickly forgotten the day when people were bringing their children and babies to Jesus to bless and the disciples tried to drive these parents away. Jesus had rebuked them with the words:

“Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” Luke 18:16-17

It was a final meal together and there were some lessons about the Kingdom of God that still had to be learned and time was running out.

Jesus’ simple act of washing his disciple’s feet reminds us of the priorities of God. Life is not about the accumulation of greater wealth, gaining another title or accolade, squeezing just a little more profit margin, driving a new car, having a bigger house, growing a bigger and bigger kingdom.

Jesus would give us a different example of how to live. Jesus always lives with a grander vision for people. Especially broken people. Tax collectors, drunkards, and sinners. The poor, the blind, the lame, the deaf. These are the one’s Jesus came for. People like you and me. For we are all sinners and drunkards, poor and blind unable to rescue ourselves.

When Jesus called Peter it was at Peter’s moment of greatest career success that Jesus says to him. You think this is good. I invite you to leave behind that which is temporal and live for that which is eternal. You can spend your life catching fish or you can lay down your plans and pick up my plans and spend your life catching people.

Jesus had a grander vision for a woman beside a well. She came to satisfy her thirst for water. He offered water that would never run dry. He offered her living water and the chance for eternal life.

And so it was, on this night as his disciples and they argued about which of them was the greatest, Jesus would get up and become their servant to wash their feet. And He invites us to do the same.

“I have set for you an example that you should do as I have done for you. I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” (John 13:15-17).

There comes a moment for each one of us when we will stand beside a basin and a towel. We will have a choice. Do we sit down and wait for someone to serve us? Will we say “I am the center of my world.” Or will we remove our outer garments, remove all the pretense and the masks. All of the striving to make something of ourselves. All those things which we have found our value in and instead pick up the basin and towel and choose to live for a grander vision.

It is possible for us to serve out of the inherent goodness of serving. We can serve our brother and sister because it makes us look good and we can become pillars in our community.

Oswald Chambers would say:

“As His disciples, our lives must be a holy example of the reality of our message. Even the natural heart of the unsaved will serve if called upon to do so, but it takes a heart broken by conviction of sin, baptized by the Holy Spirit, and crushed into submission to God’s purpose to make a person’s life a holy example of God’s message.”

It is only with a heart broken by the conviction of your sin. Sin that reminds you that left to yourself, you will always choose yourself. You will serve, not for the sake of others, but will serve for your own sake.

Before we kneel before our brother and sister we must kneel before our God. We must confess our own pride our own failure, our own selfishness our sin.

Then, and only then, as a response to the new life given to us by God are we truly able to serve our brother and sister.

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

 

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