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Standing on the Continental Divide

In March, our church Hope Wesleyan made the decision to suspend its in-person worship services. The primary foundation for this decision was a commitment as a church to love and serve our neighbors. In Ephesians 5, Paul’s charge is to “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us . . . .” Jesus loved us by laying down his life for us while we were still his enemy. When we were asked not to meet in-person but to find other creative ways to meet, we gladly accepted this inconvenience as an expression of our love for our neighbors. This commitment forms the foundation of our organizing for the return to in-person worship. Our first priority is the safety and well-being of our church family and the wider community. Our second priority is the public reputation of Hope in our community and the wider Christian church. In 1 Corinthians 11, Paul is addressing problems within the church at Corinth. He says this to them, “In the following directives I have no praise for you, for your meetings do more harm than good” (vs. 17). He then describes destructive divisions and favoritism within the community. For the sake of the church community and its witness in the city, it would have been better if they had not met. It is possible for our meeting together, even if we have the right to, to be more destructive than not meeting at all. We can unnecessarily put at risk the physical health of our church family and community as well as cause irreparable harm to our church’s reputation in our city. Therefore, these two priorities form the basis of our decision making.

Our commitment as leaders is to seek to provide for the spiritual growth and needs of all of our church family.

In the book, Canoeing the Mountains¸ Bolsinger describes the moment when the Lewis and Clark expedition reaches the peak of the Continental Divide as a “deep disorientation.” Their expectation was to see an open prairie leading to the Columbia River Basin and out to the Pacific Ocean. What they instead saw was mountain range after mountain range of the rugged snow-capped mountains like they had never seen before. It is hard to picture how disheartening and discouraging that moment must have been. Their expectations and plans were confronted by the reality of the Rocky Mountains. They were profoundly disorientated. Bolsinger warns that:

when we get to moments of deep disorientation, we often try to reorient around old ways of doing things. We go back to what we know how to do. We keep canoeing even though there is no river. At least part of the reason we do this is because we resolutely hope that the future will be like the past and that we already have the expertise needed for what is in front of us. (92, emphasis original).

In this moment, what was necessary for the Corps of Discovery was an adaptive shift. “This is the moment when they had to leave their boats, find horses and make the giant adaptive shift that comes from realizing their mental models for the terrain in front of them were wrong” (93).

As a church community, we have been confronted by an adaptive shift. We have climbed to the top of our Continental Divide. We expected to look onto the other side and see a return to worship and community as we were used to doing things. We planned for a celebration. Instead, we are faced with are the Rocky Mountains of uncertainty, snow-capped by state and federal regulations.

In the face of an adaptive challenge, Bolsinger says the first thing we do is recommit to our core ideology. We start with why we exist. He gives the following questions for organizations to answer when “facing-the-unknown moment:”

  • Why do we exist as a congregation, institution or organization?
  • What would be lost in our community, in our field or in our world if we ceased to be?
  • What purposes and principles must we protect as central to our identity?
  • What are we willing to let go of so the mission will continue? (94-95)

After recommitting to our core ideology, the next step is to reframe our strategy in light of our core ideology. “In adaptive leadership, reframing is another way of talking about the shift in values, expectations, attitudes or habits of behavior necessary to face our most difficult challenges” (95).

Third, in the face of an adaptive shift, we rely on learning. We always default to the level of our learning. Unless we commit to learning to do things differently, we will revert to what we have done before. We will canoe the mountains.

These moments of deep disorientation requiring adaptive shifts. Standing at the peak, we can choose to turn around and go back, or we can recommit to our core ideology, the mission of God. We can reframe our strategy and dedicate ourselves to learning how to navigate in this unknown world.

Blessings,
Stephen

 

Source Book:
Bolsinger, Tod. Canoeing the Mountains: Christian leadership in uncharted territory, IVP Books, 2018.

A Tale of Two Churches

It was years ago, but the impression is still deep within me. I visited a large growing church. There was a great sense of urgency to the work they were doing, a feeling that people’s eternal destiny was at stake, and so they worked. The minimum expectation for the pastoral staff was to work eighty hours a week. I spoke with one staff pastor; he said the only time he saw his kids was in-between services on Sundays; otherwise, he left for work before they got up and came home long after they had gone to sleep. But it was all worth it. The church was growing, and people were being saved.

I visited another large church recently. It is growing rapidly. There is a great sense of urgency that the work they are doing has eternal consequences for people’s destiny. So they rest. Staff are required to take time to pray and rest in Sabbath. From the senior pastor down one day a week, one weekend a month, and one month a year are spent in rest. These days are not vacation days, and they are not days off. They are days spent in study, prayer, and listening to God.

The first church was celebrated. People came from all around to learn how to do ministry. The staff were tired and rushed. People were short with one another. Anger and frustration were just below the surface, but no one could say anything because it was the work of God they were doing. Staff pastors rarely stayed for more than a year or two. Burnout was common. When the lead pastor did finally leave, his years of ministry were celebrated, and in his wake was left unhealth, pain, and broken families that would take years of healing to mend. Was it all worth it?

The second church is celebrated. People come from all around the world to learn how to do ministry. Its staff is alive and joyful. They laugh easily. They practice hospitality and never seem to be rushed. Their lead pastor recently retired. His years of ministry were celebrated. He still hangs around the place, looked upon as a beloved leader. In his wake is a new generation of leaders full and excited. Was it all worth it?

God creates all that there is. Genesis 1 tells the story. The climactic scene is of God creating humanity. When the work is done, he steps back and says, “it was very good” (vs. 31). Then he commands that on the seventh day, they are to rest. Humanity’s first task was to rest because God is holy. To rest because God has completed the work. For Adam and Eve to have worked on the seventh day would have been to say to God, “You’ve done some great work here, very impressive, now let me just make a few adjustments, and it will be perfect.” It is absurd to think of them actually saying such a thing to God, but we do it regularly when we ignore God’s command for Sabbath and rest. In Matthew 6, Jesus tells us not to worry about what we will eat, drink, wear, or even about tomorrow “For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (vs. 32-22, NIV).

What are we seeking? What are we chasing after?

Blessings,
Stephen

It Changes Nothing

The Whitehouse

Dear friends,

As you all heard me talk about many times before, I listen to podcasts . . . a lot. One of my favorites is the EntreLeadership Podcast hosted by Ken Coleman. Recently he interviewed the entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk. During the interview, Gary said something I had to come back and type it up to share it with you.

As you read this quote Replace the word “entrepreneur’ with church or Christian.

“If you are an entrepreneur or in business, not Donald Trump, not Hillary Clinton, Not Barack Obama, not George W. Bush, none of these human beings are going to help or hurt you . . . That is a straight fact . . . I’ve really been running businesses now for twenty years, and there has been absolutely not even a second let alone a day in my life that I thought oh God great thank God Bill Clinton was President when I started this company. . . there’s never been a day when I’ve said oh man Obama has stopped me from being successful. That is loser talk with a triple capital L . . . I feel bad for the person that says, ‘Well if Trump wins or if Hillary wins or Barack wins or if George wins like I’ll be better . . .’ To think that your future rests in the hands of the government, that is a recipe for disaster, and you will turn into a pawn.” (Source: https://www.entreleadership.com/podcasts/144-gary-vaynerchuksecrets-of-growth)

At the end of the day, the person who may or may not be in the White House has no bearing what so ever on our ability to be people of the Kingdom of God.  Nor does it change our call to declare to the world “The Kingdom of God is near.” The church will persevere. The will of God will be done. There has never been a day in history when a political leader, no matter how good or bad, made one once of difference on this truth.

Let us not be consumed with fear or anxiety about the future. Let us not place our hope in anyone but Jesus Christ.

Blessings,
Stephen

Encourage Each Other

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We all desperately need someone to encourage us. In this, we are all the same. Henri Nouwen writes, “Beneath all the great accomplishments of our time there is a deep current of despair. While efficiency and control are the great aspirations of our society, the loneliness, isolation, lack of friendship and intimacy, broken relationships, boredom, feelings of emptiness and depression, and a deep sense of uselessness fill the hearts of millions of people in our success-oriented world” (20-21).

Who can you encourage today? Drop them a note in the mail. Send a text. Write an e-mail. Send a PM. Higher an airplane to write a message in the clouds. In Proverbs we read, “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed” (11:25, NIV). Do you feel empty today? Then fill someone up and you will be amazed at how you are filled. Let us be people of generous encouragement today.

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

 
Source:
Nouwen, Henri J. In the name of Jesus: reflections on Christian leadership. New York: Crossroad, 1989.

Two Kinds of Leaders

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Recently I went through a period of time where I had the opportunity to meet with several community and church leaders in a very short window of time. I noticed something about the meetings. Something that really has caused me some discomfort. I observed there are at least two different kinds of leaders.

The first kind of leaders are draining leaders. Whether I spent five minutes with them or an hour I came away feeling the same. I came away feeling sucked dry emotionally, professionally, and creatively. At best I left our meetings feeling like I needed to take a shower. At worst I felt like a complete failure of a person.

The second kind of leader was a filler. These people had the ability to leave me feeling empowered and charged. I came away from my meetings, however brief, feeling like a better person.

Identifying the two types does not explain my discomfort. My discomfort comes because I am not sure why the difference exists. In both styles of leader are highly successful people. Individuals who are building large teams, amassing great profits, and coordinating significant impactful initiatives.

As I try to figure this out, I am turning to you for help. First, have you observed these differences? Second, if you have, why do you think fill people up and others drain?

Pastor Stephen

 

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Close enough to be burned

Dear Friends,

Are you close enough to those who suffer to feel their pain yourself? Many times I have sat in meetings or been a part of conversations that questioned whether they church really should be helping those who walk in from the street. Often those discussions are filled with questions asking “What if?”

What if they take advantage of us?
What if they use the money we give them to buy alcohol?
What if the story they are telling us is not true?
What if they go back to their old way of life?
What if they take our generosity and walk away?
What if I get hurt?
What if it takes too much of my time?
What if I do not have the answers to their problems?
What if . . . ?
What if . . . ?
What if I lived as Jesus lived?
What if I loved as Jesus loves?

Jesus demonstrated for us a different kind of life and a different kind of leadership than many of us are comfortable with. As Henri Nouwen in his book The Wounded Healer, states “The beginning and the end of all Christian leadership is the give your life for others” (77).

How many times did Jesus heal a person and tell them to go and sin no more and the person then went and sinned? How many times did people take the second chance given to them my Jesus and squander it? We do not know. The Bible never says. Maybe that is just the point. To love is to risk being taken advantage of and to be hurt but we love and serve anyway. Nouwen goes on to say “Who can save a child from a burning house without taking the risk of being hurt by the flames? Who can listen to a story of loneliness and despair without taking the risk of experiencing similar pains in their own heart and even losing their precious peace of mind? In short, ‘Who can take away suffering without entering it?'” (78)

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

Give me one moment in time . . .

Dear Friends,

It is one of the great joys and mysteries of life. An occurrence so uncommon to call it “rare” seems an exaggeration. What is it that I speak of? I speak of the moment when there are no more loads of laundry to be done. The moment when the hollow chambers of the washer and dryer call for more but there is none to be had. When it does occur, it is like glimpsing a shooting star fading away as quickly as it came for soon a child will dare to dry their hands on a towel. Twenty years ago when Whitney Houston’s words range across the night sky at our high school graduation, “Give me one moment in time . . .When all of my dreams are a heartbeat away” who could have guessed this would be the dream we would long for? But this is life and work as it really is: ordinary, mundane and never done.

Stack of BooksIn the years that have passed I have discovered, unless I take specific steps to restore my soul, life will suck me dry like a million leeches at a bloodletting symposium. Through trial and error I have found three basic practices which restore me and help to keep me at the top of my game. They are reading, podcasts, and exercise. Today’s post will focus on the first two.

Reading and podcasts keep my exposed to new ideas and challenged. Ministry is an experience of continually giving out information without something coming in things get stale fast. I use three formats for reading. I read books in print, I read them on my tablet and I listen to audio books. Additionally, I make use of Evernote to keep track of quotes and ideas which may come to mind.

I listen to podcasts while I am driving or am in the office.

When I read, I try to be intentional about what I read evaluating topics and books on an annual basis according to our church year (May – April). This year the focus of my reading is on coaching, Christian community development, and the missional church. But that does not mean I strictly limit myself to these areas. I will also read at least one book on preaching each year (an I idea which comes from one of my professors, though I can’t remember which one).

At the end of this post I list my favorite podcasts and recent books.

Why share this? Really, because I want to open a conversation. I have learned these things in my life through trial and error. Mostly error. I would love to hear what you do. Please post a comment on the website and let’s start some discussion.

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

As promised above, my favorite podcasts are:

Dave Ramsey: Entreleadership
Andy Stanley: Leadership Podcast and NorthPoint Community Church
Steve DeNeff: College Wesleyan Church, Marion, IN
Timothy Keller: Redeemer Presbyterian Church
Thom Rainer: Rainer on Leadership
Cartalk . . . it can’t all be about work.

Since May of this year, these are the books I have read or am currently reading:

Boyne, John. The boy in the striped pajamas: a fable. Oxford New York: David Fickling Books, 2006.

Cloud, Henry. Boundaries for leaders: results, relationships, and being ridiculously in charge. New York, NY: HarperBusiness, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2013.

Goff, Bob. Love does: discover a secretly incredible life in an ordinary world. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2012.

Keller, Timothy J. Center church : doing balanced, Gospel-centered ministry in your city. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2012.

Keller, Timothy J., and Kathy Keller. The meaning of marriage: facing the complexities of commitment with the wisdom of God. New York: Riverhead Books, 2013.

McKenna, David L. Christ-centered leadership: the incarnational difference. Eugene, Oregon: Cascade Books, 2013.

Parrott, Les, and Leslie L. Parrott. Saving your marriage before it starts: seven questions to ask before–and after– you marry. Grand Rapids, Mich: Zondervan, 2006

Perkins, John. Restoring at-risk communities: doing it together and doing it right . Grand Rapids, Mich: Baker Books, 1995.

Schmidt, Wayne. Ministry velocity: the power for leadership momentum. Indianapolis, Ind: Wesleyan Pub, 2010.

Stanley, Andy. Deep & wide: creating churches unchurched people love to attend. Grand Rapids, Mich: Zondervan, 2012.

Stearns, Richard. The hole in our Gospel. Nashville, Tenn: Thomas Nelson, 2009.

These are the books that are on my “to read list” for the next year:

Cherry, Constance M. The worship architect : a blueprint for designing culturally relevant and biblically faithful services. Grand Rapids, Mich: Baker Academic, 2010.

Corbett, Steve, and Brian Fikkert. When helping hurts : how to alleviate poverty without hurting the poor– and yourself. Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012.

Gerber, Michael E. The E-myth revisited : why most small businesses don’t work and what to do about it. New York: CollinsBusiness, 1995.

Nouwen, Henri J. The wounded healer : ministry in contemporary society. New York, NY: Image Books, 1990.

Perkins, John M. Let justice roll down. S.l: Baker Book House, 2012.

Sinek, Simon. Leaders eat last : why some teams pull together and others don’t. New York, New York: Portfolio/Penguin, 2014.

Stearns, Richard. Unfinished : filling the hole in our Gospel. Nashville, Tennessee: W Publishing Group, an imprint of Thomas Nelson, 2013.

Sutter, Arloa. The invisible : what the church can do to find and serve the least of these. Indianapolis, Ind: Wesleyan Pub. House, 2010.

White, James E. The rise of the Nones : understanding and reaching the religiously unaffiliated. Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2014.

Wilson, Mark O. Purple fish : a heart for sharing Jesus. Indianapolis: Wesleyan Publishing House, 2014.

PLEASE NOTE: As always with such lists, their inclusion here does not necessarily imply my agreement with or endorsement of the ideas expressed by the authors in these books.

The Midnight Ride

Dear Friends,

Nehemiah famously took a midnight ride. He journey to being the governor of the territory including Jerusalem began with a message from his brother about the terrible state of the city. “Those who survived the exile and are back in the province are in great trouble and disgrace. The wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates have been burned with fire” (Nehemiah 1:3, NIV). At the time Nehemiah was serving as the cup bearer to the king . . . of Babylon: the occupying enemy nation. His heart was broken and God placed a vision in his heart to do something about it. After many months, and an unbelievable story of God’s providence and leading, which brought him to this point. Nehemiah still has one more thing to do before he went public with the full reason he had come to Jerusalem. He had a midnight ride to take.

Horse RideEach of us need to take our own midnight rides. Church planters, before throwing it all in and launching, will visit the city and neighborhood they are going to plant in. Missionaries will make exploratory trips to the country they are going to serve before going public with their plan. Pastor will sneak into town ahead of a candidating weekend. The purpose these clandestine activities are to investigate before they initiate. Is the place God has called them to, the place where his vision will grow and be refined. If it is not, it may be found to just be a good idea but not the vision or the way of the vision.

The sixth Building Block is to, Walk before you talk; investigate before you initiate.



Even after we have jumped all it is still possible we will find things will not go as we expect. Plans can still fail. Opportunities can still disappear. Funding may never come.

“Spiritually speaking, faith is confidence that God is who he says he is and that he will do what he has promised to do. Faith is not a power or a force. It is not a vehicle by which we can coerce God into something against his will. It is simply an expression of confidence in the person and character of God. It is the proper response to the promise or revelation of God” (63).

There is a time to investigate and move cautiously, there is a time to dive into the unknown. There is nothing wrong with failing, nothing wrong with changing our minds, but doing nothing is unacceptable. The purpose of investigation is to determine where to move not whether to move.

Blessing,
Pastor Stephen

 

 

Quotation taken from:
Stanley, Andy. Visioneering. Sisters, Or: Multnomah Publishers, 2005.

 

Dying on Field

Dear Friends,

Last week I opened the topic of our citizenship as people of God’s Kingdom. Today I continue these thoughts.

Missionary Graves

Wesleyan Missionary Graveyard in Sierra Leone

Missions has change a lot in the past hundred plus years. There was a time when missionaries boarded ships to head to distant lands knowing they would probably never return to the land of their birth. The symbol of this commitment was what they choose to pack their stuff in. Not a suit case or steamer trunk but a coffin. The pioneers walked away from the privilege and position of their home countries to unite with peoples across the oceans. This is the kind of commitment Paul is speaking of the profound mystery of Christ and the church (read last week’s Milk Can).

Today it is rare for a missionary to die “on field.” Terms and length of commitments have gotten shorter and shorter. Missionaries enjoy phone calls, e-mail, and even the ability to Skype with family. Today one can be a missionary without ever leaving and cleaving to a new people. While this has opened missionary work to many who would never have gone, it can dilute the true depth of Christ’s call onto the life of everyone who calls themselves a Christian. As the German pastor Dietrich Bonhoeffer says in his book The Cost of Discipleship, “When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die.”

One does not have to go to foreign lands to follow Christ. For many, a generation ago, the call to leave and cleave meant joining those in the Civil Rights Movement. They marched alongside their African American neighbors and boarded Freedom Buses to lay down their lives to battle injustice.

Today many are being called to identify with and carry the burden of the immigrant in our own nation. Simultaneously giving up and using their position, power and prestige to care for their neighbor. More on the work of our own denomination can be found here: http://www.wesleyan.org/1045/faq-on-immigrants-and-immigration-questions-and-answers

Bonhoeffer would also say being a Christian is about “. . . courageously and actively doing God’s will.” Many times I have prayed those words at the end of The Lord’s Prayer, “Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” What if God intends to answer that prayer through you and I? What is God’s will courageously and actively calling you to?

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

In Only 4 Months

Dear Friends,

Nearly every day I pass a storefront sign that reads, “College graduate to store manager in 4 months.” Two thoughts come to mind when I read the sign. “I don’t want to work for that manager.” and “leadershipThe manager of that store must not have any real responsibility if the job can be learned in four months.” However, as I think about it more and more, truth be told, most of our jobs, even mine (but don’t tell anyone) can be learned in four months. The
technical or hard skills of being a leader are not terribly complex. Even so, it does not stop book after book after book being written about them. It doesn’t prevent unending conferences from being hosted.

This is the stuff that excites. The authors and conferences all feed our insatiable desire to find the magic formula to building bigger organizations, larger churches, amassing wealth, influence, position, power, and prestige. The stuff ever leader craves . . .

So a vacuum is left in another area of leadership. One no one wants delve into: The area of the leader’s soul. For those who call themselves “Christian” and use the title “leader” the challenge of the soul is particularly demanding. For it is a call to do more than sacrifice, more than be a servant, it is a call to die.

David McKenna in his book Christ-Centered Leadership: The Incarnational Difference writes of the difference for a Christian leader:

Leadership automatically involves the advantage of position, power, and prestige . . . There is nothing wrong with position, power or prestige in leadership. These are resources needed to fulfill the responsibilities of leadership. If, however, these advantages become vehicles of self-interest or substitutes for character, they can be demonic. Leaders of integrity hold them lightly and use them wisely.
Incarnational leadership asks us to go farther. Imagine seeing a job description for Christian leadership with this expectation: We are seeking a leader with the mind of Christ who has a transforming influence upon followers by being:
. . . vulnerable to human need at the risk of being called weak;
. . . obedient to the will of God at the risk of being called foolish, and;
. . . humble in spirit at the risk of being held in contempt. (45)

For the Christian leader it is a daily struggle to die to the siren songs of position, power, and prestige and to instead ask if I am following the call of Christ. “Once again, the mind of Christ is taking us where we do not want to go. How many Christian leaders are willing to make sacrifices for the sake of Christ as the risk of being considered weak, called crazy, and treated with contempt?” (46)

Jesus was called a drunkard and gluten. John Wesley was scorned and rejected by the church he loved. Billy Graham was ridiculed by the Christian church for much of his career. We look at these men who changed the world and see the end of their life. We fail to see the years of darkness and rejection that defined the majority of their lives. All because of a decision to follow the call of God.

Why do we as leaders, in this modern age, think we somehow get a pass?

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

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