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I Am Not the Expert in the Room


The old dictionary Merriam-Webster defines racism as “a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.” If you are like me, no matter how many times I read that definition, I still don’t understand what it is. And it certainly does not help me to see it in the community around me. As hard as it is to define with words, I have learned this about racism: Racism always has a better explanation.

This is what I mean, sometimes I have listened to the news and said these things myself:

  • It was not police brutality; he was resisting arrest. He should have done what the officer told him to do.
  • He may have been jogging, but he was also trespassing on a construction site.
  • When a police officer pulls a young black man over, and the first question he asks is, “what are you doing on this side of town?” It’s not racism, its just an officer wanting to ask something other than “Where are you headed to in such a hurry tonight?”
  • When a cashier accuses a man she just rang up of not paying for items as he walks out of the store, it is only a simple mistake.
  • She didn’t call the police because he was black, he made threatening motions.
  • It looked like a gun.
  • He was running away.
  • When a young dies in the back of a police van because he was not strapped in correctly, it is only a tragic accident.
  • She made a threatening motion.
  • When I feel the urge to cross to the other side of the street because a black man is coming toward me, I say I am just being careful.

This is of the muddy mess of racism that we must wade into. Sometimes the explanation is the explanation; often it is not. How do we know? I have learned that I can’t know. I have also learned that African Americans have lived under the weight of racism for so long they often intuitively know the difference. What this means for me is that I must put aside what I think I know and my explanations and be willing to listen. I must trust that my African American (or Hispanic, or Native American)  friend sees, hears, and knows better than I. I am not the expert in the room.

Blessings,
Stephen

 

Today’s resource I want to share is the book The Color of Compromise: The Truth about the American Church’s Complicity in Racism by Jemar Tisby. Tisby challenges the church to see how we have often participated in and supported the systems to maintain racist ideas and practices. Tisby does more than shine light into darkness, he also helps us plot a path forward. In addition to the book, there is also a podcast episode on Fuller Theological Seminary’s Conversing with Mark Labberton, Episode 51 – Jemar Tisby on Race and the American Church I would also highly recommend.

Give me one moment in time . . .

Dear Friends,

It is one of the great joys and mysteries of life. An occurrence so uncommon to call it “rare” seems an exaggeration. What is it that I speak of? I speak of the moment when there are no more loads of laundry to be done. The moment when the hollow chambers of the washer and dryer call for more but there is none to be had. When it does occur, it is like glimpsing a shooting star fading away as quickly as it came for soon a child will dare to dry their hands on a towel. Twenty years ago when Whitney Houston’s words range across the night sky at our high school graduation, “Give me one moment in time . . .When all of my dreams are a heartbeat away” who could have guessed this would be the dream we would long for? But this is life and work as it really is: ordinary, mundane and never done.

Stack of BooksIn the years that have passed I have discovered, unless I take specific steps to restore my soul, life will suck me dry like a million leeches at a bloodletting symposium. Through trial and error I have found three basic practices which restore me and help to keep me at the top of my game. They are reading, podcasts, and exercise. Today’s post will focus on the first two.

Reading and podcasts keep my exposed to new ideas and challenged. Ministry is an experience of continually giving out information without something coming in things get stale fast. I use three formats for reading. I read books in print, I read them on my tablet and I listen to audio books. Additionally, I make use of Evernote to keep track of quotes and ideas which may come to mind.

I listen to podcasts while I am driving or am in the office.

When I read, I try to be intentional about what I read evaluating topics and books on an annual basis according to our church year (May – April). This year the focus of my reading is on coaching, Christian community development, and the missional church. But that does not mean I strictly limit myself to these areas. I will also read at least one book on preaching each year (an I idea which comes from one of my professors, though I can’t remember which one).

At the end of this post I list my favorite podcasts and recent books.

Why share this? Really, because I want to open a conversation. I have learned these things in my life through trial and error. Mostly error. I would love to hear what you do. Please post a comment on the website and let’s start some discussion.

Blessings,
Pastor Stephen

As promised above, my favorite podcasts are:

Dave Ramsey: Entreleadership
Andy Stanley: Leadership Podcast and NorthPoint Community Church
Steve DeNeff: College Wesleyan Church, Marion, IN
Timothy Keller: Redeemer Presbyterian Church
Thom Rainer: Rainer on Leadership
Cartalk . . . it can’t all be about work.

Since May of this year, these are the books I have read or am currently reading:

Boyne, John. The boy in the striped pajamas: a fable. Oxford New York: David Fickling Books, 2006.

Cloud, Henry. Boundaries for leaders: results, relationships, and being ridiculously in charge. New York, NY: HarperBusiness, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2013.

Goff, Bob. Love does: discover a secretly incredible life in an ordinary world. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2012.

Keller, Timothy J. Center church : doing balanced, Gospel-centered ministry in your city. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2012.

Keller, Timothy J., and Kathy Keller. The meaning of marriage: facing the complexities of commitment with the wisdom of God. New York: Riverhead Books, 2013.

McKenna, David L. Christ-centered leadership: the incarnational difference. Eugene, Oregon: Cascade Books, 2013.

Parrott, Les, and Leslie L. Parrott. Saving your marriage before it starts: seven questions to ask before–and after– you marry. Grand Rapids, Mich: Zondervan, 2006

Perkins, John. Restoring at-risk communities: doing it together and doing it right . Grand Rapids, Mich: Baker Books, 1995.

Schmidt, Wayne. Ministry velocity: the power for leadership momentum. Indianapolis, Ind: Wesleyan Pub, 2010.

Stanley, Andy. Deep & wide: creating churches unchurched people love to attend. Grand Rapids, Mich: Zondervan, 2012.

Stearns, Richard. The hole in our Gospel. Nashville, Tenn: Thomas Nelson, 2009.

These are the books that are on my “to read list” for the next year:

Cherry, Constance M. The worship architect : a blueprint for designing culturally relevant and biblically faithful services. Grand Rapids, Mich: Baker Academic, 2010.

Corbett, Steve, and Brian Fikkert. When helping hurts : how to alleviate poverty without hurting the poor– and yourself. Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012.

Gerber, Michael E. The E-myth revisited : why most small businesses don’t work and what to do about it. New York: CollinsBusiness, 1995.

Nouwen, Henri J. The wounded healer : ministry in contemporary society. New York, NY: Image Books, 1990.

Perkins, John M. Let justice roll down. S.l: Baker Book House, 2012.

Sinek, Simon. Leaders eat last : why some teams pull together and others don’t. New York, New York: Portfolio/Penguin, 2014.

Stearns, Richard. Unfinished : filling the hole in our Gospel. Nashville, Tennessee: W Publishing Group, an imprint of Thomas Nelson, 2013.

Sutter, Arloa. The invisible : what the church can do to find and serve the least of these. Indianapolis, Ind: Wesleyan Pub. House, 2010.

White, James E. The rise of the Nones : understanding and reaching the religiously unaffiliated. Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2014.

Wilson, Mark O. Purple fish : a heart for sharing Jesus. Indianapolis: Wesleyan Publishing House, 2014.

PLEASE NOTE: As always with such lists, their inclusion here does not necessarily imply my agreement with or endorsement of the ideas expressed by the authors in these books.

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